by Emily Sovich

Friday, January 27, 2012

Lucky Lives

I'd already shaken my head, said no before she'd even asked me, but the woman jerked her chin in the air and looked past me. She was squatting in the gutter, loading bananas into a wooden basket. "That your husband," she asked.

I followed her eyes.

Chris was standing on the sidewalk, sunlight glinting off his hair, and looking down at Katherine. Katherine was talking. She said something to Penelope then waited, hopping from one foot to the other, while Penelope giggled. Penelope threw her hands over her eyes.

Chris started laughing.

"Yes," I answered.

The woman nodded. "Big," she said, "good job. He take care of you. You don't worry about the price of fruit." There was a gap in her mouth where two of her teeth had halfway rotted. She handed me a bag of bananas.

I handed her two dollars.

She tucked the money into an old, coin purse. "Lucky," she said.

I nodded.



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"Oh Mommy," Katherine cried, wrapping her arms around my neck, "do you know what those women kept saying to me at the market?"

"No, baby" I laughed. "Tell me about it."

"They kept telling me I'm beautiful. Beautiful! At first I didn't understand them because I don't speak their language, but then a woman translated for me. She leaned forward and said, 'Do you know what they're saying?' And I didn't know, so I shook my head and she said, 'everyone thinks you're beautiful. That's what they keep saying.' Can you imagine? I mean, why do they think I'm beautiful?"

"Well, love, you are beautiful, but also, everyone always notices you because you're foreign."

"I'm foreign?"

"Well, yeah, haven't you noticed?"

"I don't know. All I know is, after that I had to blush several times. I felt so lucky!"


***
"Are you an American," he asked, standing up as I settled into the seat beside him. He was wearing a well-cut suit, and his voice was soft; his English was flawless.

"Yes," I nodded.

He smiled. "I could tell. I observed your family in the airport. I could tell you were American because of your accent. I am from Pakistan. Have you been to Pakistan?"

"No," I smiled, "I haven't."

"Oh." He looked so sad for a minute, so genuinely surprised and disappointed, that I had a wild fantasy about lying to him, telling him we were only just now on our way to Pakistan, and asking him all about his country.  "Why not," he asked me.

"Um," I stammered, searching for answers, "I don't know. I guess I thought it might be too expensive."

"Oh, but Pakistan is not expensive! You can have a beautiful meal in Pakistan for only two American dollars, and the food is very good. There is a great deal of variety, and the people like Americans. You would be welcome."

"I didn't know. I don't know very much about your country."

He shook his head. "But why not," he asked. "In Pakistan, even in the small villages, everyone knows about America. We know about your political system and your leaders and your elections. Why do you not know about us?"

"I don't know. I'm sorry."

"I once met an American in my country. I believe he was in your Army, and he told me about all the places he's traveled. He's had a lucky life, he told me. And you? Where are you traveling?"

"Oh, we're on our way home now. We live in Japan. We've been touring Southeast Asia."

"And that man is your husband," he asked, nodding toward Chris, who was reading a story to the girls in the row behind us.

"Yes."

"He is a good father. Your daughters are very lucky. Literacy is a problem in my country. I'm going to Japan to study their educational system."

"Oh, wow, that's impressive! My girls love to read. I can't imagine life without stories."

"You are very blessed, I think. People lead lucky lives in your country."


"Yes. Yes, you're right," I nodded.

21 comments:

  1. And do you ever feel guilty about all that luck? It can consume me at times, especially when I start to think that I'm among the luckiest of the lucky -- healthy, secure job, good family, chances to travel, fancy iPads, homeowner, education, warm meals, so much fruit it rots before being eaten, dentist visits, etc. You get the picture. I'll make a donation to your cause in an attempt to shed some of it, but it's really futile bc the guilt stays no matter. It's an odd place to be bc I've worked hard and done the "right" things that have led to the life I lead....you'd think I'd feel justified in my lucky status...not exactly.
    Whew...enough.
    Have a good day! Keep writing!
    D

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  2. Wow, what amazing encounters. That Pakistani man was incredibly direct! Probably refreshing in one sense, maybe a little discomfiting in others. Does this make you want to visit Pakistan now? :)

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  3. Those women know beauty when they see it. Your daughter is certainly a beauty. I loved how she was excited by it, as if she had never considered it before. How refreshing! You are such a lovely little family.

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  4. Beautiful stories! It's amazing how people just watching you can tell so much about your family. Your daughter's statement was great. Hope you have a nice weekend!

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  5. Dana: I feel guilty, too, and...perplexed, I guess. You and I are both from a place where hard work and making the "right" choices seem like the path to success, you know? It was hard to come face-to-face with the reality that there are thousands (more!) of good, hard-working people who have no chance at upward mobility whatsoever. Of course, I know it's more complicated than that. There are political structures to consider (not to mention, the luck of coming from a country with vast natural resources), but the disparity of wealth, especially between the predominantly white, Western tourists and the Cambodian people, is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. (That's probably why it's been such a theme in my writing.) And, I don't know. I'm still trying to process. :)

    Jade: You know, I don't think I did a good job of portraying him. He was so soft-spoken and sweet, so polite and respectful, that there wasn't any awkwardness or confrontation. There was so much I wanted to say to him, but didn't want to say -- you know? And yeah, I think it would be interesting to go to Pakistan. Sometime when their government is less fragile though, you know, in the future. :)

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  6. I've been thinking about this "luck" often lately -- always(oddly) when I'm headed to the dentist. So your image of the lady selling fruit in the gutter with rotting teeth really connected me to this story. I'm so glad you shared it.

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  7. When you travel it sure puts things into perspective. Last year when we were in St. Thomas a man commented on my 3 boys and commented on how blessed I was. Sometimes I forget how blessed I really am.

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  8. It is funny to me that it did not even seem to cross the Pakistani man's mind that Americans might be scared to visit right now...at any rate, he sounds wonderful. In college I did a study abroad program in Israel, and I loved what little I saw of the middle east much more than I thought I would. I dream of going back and seeing more someday...when the governments are, as you say, less fragile. It seems like your trip was extremely powerful? Life changing? Thought provoking? The right words are escaping me, but I have heard that from other people too about this area of the world. I too marvel at my incredible luck, and yet spend all too much time not fully appreciating it. Have really enjoyed your last few posts, Emily.

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  9. Nobody travels like you do, Em: so open and ready to see every single experience fully. Your heart is so open to the people in a place.

    I love how you tied together all of these luckinesses! I especially thought it was interesting when the banana-selling woman knew that just because Chris is big, he would be able to take good care of you. How in so many places in the world, sheer physicality means success and capability.

    And Katherine's blushing 'several' times made me smile, too. I pretty much love this post :)

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  10. You simply amaze me, Em. You make me laugh, cry, and reflect all in the space of a breath. I would compliment you more but I don't want to make you blush several times :-)

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  11. You and your precious 'beautiful' family are most blessed.

    So are we all. We are a blessed nation...'just fail to realize it 'cause were too stinkin' busy complainin' about it! Heeehehehe!

    God bless ya and have a marvelous weekend sweetie!!! :o)

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  12. Love your picture with Chris. Such sweet stories. I think that little girls need to hear how beautiful they are all the time.

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  13. You took home more from this trip than just photos....thank you for sharing.

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  14. Great little piece. You captured a lot with it. I didn't care for the attention when I went to the India and the Philippines... didn't like that they thought I was special because of my light skin. I know why it happens but it makes me sad. But that doesn't mean any of us shouldn't celebrate our beauty! Your girls are most certainly beautiful little girls!

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  15. What a beautiful story, I have to admit it made me tear up. It's interesting to find out the things we see as normal make us pretty fortunate. I love your writing and am your newest blog follower.

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  16. I love that your daughter didn't realize she was foreign...

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  17. Insighful. Beautiful. Profound.

    I love everything you write.

    Your word have much depth & substance.

    Xx

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  18. I love reading your anecdotes and observations of the world around you. This is a really great post!

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  19. It's always so interesting to see how other people in other cultures view America and Americans... sometimes it's so sad to me - especially when you realize that we are indeed fortunate and yet we so often don't realize or appreciate it enough!

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  20. It makes ya realize just how blessed we are when it's put into perspective by outside views like that. Wow!

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  21. Gosh darn it, this post makes me want to cry. It's beautiful and touching and eye-opening.

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